Positive Discipline, Cooperative Kids

What happens when your 3 year old pitches a fit and throws his toys all over the room and refuses to pick them up? What about when your 8 year old refuses to do her homework? Often, we jump straight to punishment. We want to make sure that the child understands what they’ve done wrong. That they’ve faced some sort of consequence to deter them from doing the same thing next time.  But what if there was another way?