I was inspired by Maryanne’s article on the website. I liked how intentional she and her son are about defining a new way to live together. My daughter moved back in with me, after living away from home for 7 years. She came back mostly so that she could save money to buy a place of her own and, truthfully, I was happy to have her back at home. I had missed seeing her everyday. I did find that living together as adults was very different than it had been when she was a child and teenager. We agreed to allow each other to go our own ways, checking in with each other almost as roommates. I found this quite freeing. She came with 3 cats, however, and that was a bit of a challenge as I had a cat at the time as well. Nevertheless, we were able to navigate these issues well and I really enjoyed having her and her cats around! I’d do it again, in a heartbeat.
Thanks so much for sharing. We have two adult kids who have launched and are on their own. I feel we have a very good relationship, parenting adults is certainly different than when they were kids/teens. They are now adults with adult responsibilities and when they come to us it’s more for “advice” as an adult. We still have two teens living at home, and as they grow and are reaching adulthood, we as parents are trying to encourage them in their own decision making weather we agree with their choices or not. I love how they are showing more independence and maturity in their choices.
Oh my goodness, I imagine a seven-year gap would be a huge adjustment. Nadia, I am very curious one day how you will be with this stage, as your experience is familiar with extended family living in one home, I imagine it would feel odd if your children lived outside of the house at a younger age.
This is great – thanks for sharing! My husband would love it if our kids will be out of the house in a timely manner when they become adults, but we’re also fully aware that our expectations will not necessarily line up with reality. We’re a long way off from being empty-nesters though!
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