Parenting Tips
This section contains weekly parenting tips and strategies ranging from picky eaters to positive discipline!
If you have a tip or strategy, please share it with us!
This section contains weekly parenting tips and strategies ranging from picky eaters to positive discipline!
If you have a tip or strategy, please share it with us!
What makes an apology meaningful? (or, what is a “good” apology?).
A meaningful apology includes:
Parent—a meaningful apology: I can see that I hurt your feelings when I yelled at you just now. I am sorry I yelled and I am sorry I hurt your feelings. I am going to work really hard on controlling my feelings in a better way so that I do not yell so much. How about if we snuggle here for a few minutes before you go back outside?
Parent—a conditional apology: I can see that I hurt your feelings when I yelled at you just now. I am sorry I yelled and I am sorry I hurt your feelings. I am going to work really hard on controlling my feelings in a better way so that I do not yell so much BUT, I would not have to do this if you would just listen to me the first time I ask you to do something….. How about if we snuggle here for a few minutes before you go back outside?
What are the different feelings each apology triggers?
The addition of 1 little word changes everything!
The trick is to separate the apology from the behavioural intervention. Apologize now, freely and without condition then later, in a connected moment, have a conversation about “listening when I ask you the first time”. It is ok to address the behaviour, just not with the apology!
This is really good for everyone to read about!
Thank you for these beneficial tips. People who apologize have strong character, admire themselves, and their partners amongst their kids, parents, spouses etc.